Your stories
In your healing process your stories are very important.
You will have a wide range of cultural, family and personal stories that guide you in life. Your biological story, Your social story, Your family story, … all have great influence on what you experience as your personal story. Understanding this and recognising the origins of some of our beliefs, emotions and behaviour is part of our liberation from guilt. As we reveal this story then we can find our innocence, love for our self and our roots. These are essential steps in any truly deep healing process.
There are stories that keep you trapped in relationships and situations. Others that justify your excuses, and ... and ...
We choose media, groups, politics and friends that support our personal neurotic stories. All of this holds us in a fixed identity, inhibiting change and growth.
Most of these stories are unconscious, they are what we see as 'normal' so we do not question them.
In this 'normal unconscious' place they have control over our lives and relationships.
If we want to change then we need to become aware of these unconscious stories and the power they wield in our lives.
As you become conscious of these unconscious tricksters then we can plan therapeutic interventions, rites of passage or other kinds of support to bring more fulfilment, joy, balance and well-being into your life.
Here are some suggestions and questions to help you explore some of your unconscious stories.
Your biological story:
How was it? How was your experience of your body and the stories you heard and believed about it? How was your early experience, emotions and stories about your genitals, gender and sexuality? From the biological making of men page what impacts or interests you – how and why? You might explore other historical aspects of your body: memories and attitudes around food and bodily functions. What kinds of strengths, weakness, illnesses, ... do you have in your body, ... what are their stories?
Your family story:
How did you feel in your family? What are your earliest memories .... find the emotional aspects of these memories? What stories did you hear about boys and men, as distinct from girls and women? How were the men (father, grandfather, uncles. Brothers, …)? How did they behave and relate, communication, presence, invasion, abandonment, love, other emotions, …. with other men, with women, with you, …? What roles did you take on in order to find love and acceptance?
Your social story:
As we move out in to the world with much of our character already defined, we are tested, we find friends, we encounter struggles and conflicts. How was this for you, in different contexts ... where you felt well and where you suffered? Describe the situations including the roles played and the emotions?
- from 7 to 17 … schools, social groups and friends, adolescence, … your beliefs, struggles, joys, fears and discoveries, emotions, dreams and early relationships, … child and adolescent sexuality, ...
- early adulthood … university, sexual discovery and relationships, friendships with men and women, career and work experiences, ...
** some brief story boxes** link to a blog?
You will have a wide range of cultural, family and personal stories that guide you in life. Your biological story, Your social story, Your family story, … all have great influence on what you experience as your personal story. Understanding this and recognising the origins of some of our beliefs, emotions and behaviour is part of our liberation from guilt. As we reveal this story then we can find our innocence, love for our self and our roots. These are essential steps in any truly deep healing process.
There are stories that keep you trapped in relationships and situations. Others that justify your excuses, and ... and ...
We choose media, groups, politics and friends that support our personal neurotic stories. All of this holds us in a fixed identity, inhibiting change and growth.
Most of these stories are unconscious, they are what we see as 'normal' so we do not question them.
In this 'normal unconscious' place they have control over our lives and relationships.
If we want to change then we need to become aware of these unconscious stories and the power they wield in our lives.
As you become conscious of these unconscious tricksters then we can plan therapeutic interventions, rites of passage or other kinds of support to bring more fulfilment, joy, balance and well-being into your life.
Here are some suggestions and questions to help you explore some of your unconscious stories.
Your biological story:
How was it? How was your experience of your body and the stories you heard and believed about it? How was your early experience, emotions and stories about your genitals, gender and sexuality? From the biological making of men page what impacts or interests you – how and why? You might explore other historical aspects of your body: memories and attitudes around food and bodily functions. What kinds of strengths, weakness, illnesses, ... do you have in your body, ... what are their stories?
Your family story:
How did you feel in your family? What are your earliest memories .... find the emotional aspects of these memories? What stories did you hear about boys and men, as distinct from girls and women? How were the men (father, grandfather, uncles. Brothers, …)? How did they behave and relate, communication, presence, invasion, abandonment, love, other emotions, …. with other men, with women, with you, …? What roles did you take on in order to find love and acceptance?
Your social story:
As we move out in to the world with much of our character already defined, we are tested, we find friends, we encounter struggles and conflicts. How was this for you, in different contexts ... where you felt well and where you suffered? Describe the situations including the roles played and the emotions?
- from 7 to 17 … schools, social groups and friends, adolescence, … your beliefs, struggles, joys, fears and discoveries, emotions, dreams and early relationships, … child and adolescent sexuality, ...
- early adulthood … university, sexual discovery and relationships, friendships with men and women, career and work experiences, ...
** some brief story boxes** link to a blog?