Finding Balance
Finding balance in our lives means starting from where we are right now - being fully present for ourselves and for others. Here we find the complex magic of both our personal enslavement and our liberty. It gives us the roots to stand upon so as to find a gentle and respectful power to engage with life in new and creative ways.
As men we are generally quite desensitised to our own experience. We are conditioned, hurt, often confused, wanting to be ‘good men’, defending our personal neurotic concepts of reality. We are sometimes accused of 'absence'. When we learn to pay attention to our self, our experience, our body, our emotions…. this helps us towards more healthy relationships. Our personal story is the basis for any truly balanced healing.
Men in Movement offers individual therapy and supportive men's groups where we listen to everything that emerges in your self-exploration. We listen to your stories, and work with you to design and realise the Rites of passage to empower your authentic masculinity.
This begins with exploring the complexity of your personal story - developing awareness of being a wounded man and unlocking the thoughts and feelings that go along with those wounds:
We do not promote or defend any one model of masculinity. Your authentic masculinity will emerge from your honest investigation in therapy or in the groups. Here we share ourselves and support each other:
As men we are generally quite desensitised to our own experience. We are conditioned, hurt, often confused, wanting to be ‘good men’, defending our personal neurotic concepts of reality. We are sometimes accused of 'absence'. When we learn to pay attention to our self, our experience, our body, our emotions…. this helps us towards more healthy relationships. Our personal story is the basis for any truly balanced healing.
Men in Movement offers individual therapy and supportive men's groups where we listen to everything that emerges in your self-exploration. We listen to your stories, and work with you to design and realise the Rites of passage to empower your authentic masculinity.
This begins with exploring the complexity of your personal story - developing awareness of being a wounded man and unlocking the thoughts and feelings that go along with those wounds:
- What is happening in your life right now: relationships, body, emotions, beliefs, ...
- Identify and define your values, agree them with your colleagues. What is a man? How should a man be?
- Identify and define your emotions. Write and talk about them. This means exploring sentences that begin … “I am afraid of …..”, “I am angry with ….”, I am sad about …..”, I am happy about ...”
- Explore examples from your own life where you have not been able to but would like to meet these values. What are the related emotions?
- Explore your childhood family and cultural experiences. What formed you and made you with your values, strengths, frailties, incoherences, … and the related emotions?
- How are these reflected in your body, in tensions, areas of pain, areas that are desensitised, …. illnesses you might have … your physical posture, …..
- Explore your relationship with other men in the group. How are you with them? How do you live this? Is it the same as in other relationships?
- How is your inner sex life, fantasy, satisfaction, ... how do you live it? And your actual sexual life? This is not a cognitive exercise. What are the emotions?
- Question and redefine these values. Is there coherence between the different areas of your life? .... beliefs, actions, emotions .... work ... partner ... children .... friends .... and back to your infancy and your parents ….
We do not promote or defend any one model of masculinity. Your authentic masculinity will emerge from your honest investigation in therapy or in the groups. Here we share ourselves and support each other:
- Telling and sharing our stories – reducing the shame and fear of failure or rejection
- Recognising the biological, family and social components of our stories brings understanding about how and why we have certain beliefs, behaviours and experiences. It brings innocence.
- Learning new skills, attitudes and healthy ways expressing our emotions and of relating to others.
- Challenging each other when we are getting lost in our neurotic defences
- Rites of passage that create new stories, transforming our history, bringing a new self into our lives and relationships.